Being in a long distance relationship is by no means easy. Whether your partner is working few hours away in the same country, or right across the world, it can be challenging.
If you really want to stay together though, you can make it work. Why not try one of our ten ways to make long distance work?
1. Play Games
If you’re going to make long distance work, then you need to get creative. Why not play a game together? It is a great way to keep in touch, without having to take time out to talk. Why not play ‘Words with Friends’ or download other games to play on your phone against each other.
2. Send Snail Mail
Nothing beats good old fashioned post. It’s so exciting receiving parcels, letters and postcards. I recently sent my boyfriend a small package in the post and even though it wasn’t anything huge or costly, it meant a lot for him to have something tangible from the person he loves.
3. Have a Date Night
Just because you’re far apart, doesn’t mean you can’t have dates. Why not plan a date night? You can get really creative with this. Use technology to your advantage! Why not put on Netflix and watch the same film? Then you can text each other about it throughout. Other ideas include going for a walk together on video chat and both setting up a dinner table and face timing each other. Options are endless.
4. Trust each other
Long distance isn’t going to work if you don’t trust each other. Human touch is needed for any relationship, but if you’re worried about your partner cheating, or vice versa, you are going to hit some hurdles. Lay down the ground rules before you’re apart. Make sure you are both on the same page and completely trust that you are going to be committed.
5. Stay in touch
Try and talk as much as you can. Set times to Skype or message, but do avoid excessive communication. Sometimes too much communication is a bad thing. You don’t want to be too clingy and you also don’t want to run out of things to say.
If you do find yourself stumped for things to talk about, try and do similar things. Why not read the same book and talk about it? Or watch the same TV series?
Don’t forget to say good morning and goodnight! It makes the other person worry less about if you’re ok and also shows that you are thinking about each other.
6. Explore apps
There are so many great apps available to help you make long distance work. Apps such as ‘TouchNote’, allow you to send tangible postcards of your pictures to each other. Other apps like ‘Between’, act as a place for you to share your pictures, stories, chats and even your time zones together. Check out these other 17 apps for long distance relationships.
7. Work on yourself
This is the perfect opportunity to work on yourself. Start a new hobby, join the gym, go and see friends, spend time with family, launch your own business, teach yourself how to cook etc, etc. It’ll also give you something great to talk about at the end of the day.
8. Be honest about your feelings
You’re feeling sad? Tell them. You’ve had the best day? Share it! Your partner is not psychic. Yes, they know you’re probably missing them and hey, they miss you to, but on a day that you’re really struggling, talk it out or ask them to help. Sitting on your feelings can lead to bitterness and loss of feelings.
9. Send Pictures
It’s really hard to visualise what each other is doing and what they’re seeing when you’re not there. Get comfortable in front of the camera. Send some selfies of you on days out, or take pictures of what you’re doing.
The hardest part for me, when my boyfriend first went away, was not being able to visualise where he was. Having pictures means you’re able to relate to what they’re talking about. Now if he can’t snap any, he’ll send me google links to places he’s visiting so I can visualise where he is.
10. Plan for the future
Another way to make long distant work is to plan for the future. Whether it’s when you’re next going to meet or a milestone event, why not use your time communicating to plan something together?
My boyfriend and I have been planning when we’re next going to see other. On top of that, we have also created a Pinterest board together. This is a great idea for planning something as a couple. Maybe you could set one up for your dream house, dream holiday or wedding! You don’t need to be online at the same time to ‘pin’ to it and gives you something to look forward to when you are able to get online. Options are endless.
What do you think of our tips to make long distance work? Are you in a long distant relationship? What tips would you add to this list? Let us know in the comments below.