5 TIPS FOR STAY AT HOME MUMS

5 TIPS FOR STAY AT HOME MUMS

I adore being a stay at home mum. It’s incredibly rewarding.

Yes I yearn for my career (hence starting my own online business), but getting to watch your child grow up, be there for all of their firsts and getting to contribute to everything they’re learning, is an amazing experience. 

I am so grateful to be able to have this opportunity, and even though I absolutely wouldn’t change it for the world, it’s not always a walk in the park.

Being a stay at home mum can be exhausting and extremely hard at times. There will be days when you feel like you’re not doing a good enough job, that there are only so many craft activities that you can come up with for entertainment and that your ‘to do’ list just seems endless.

I’ve been a stay at home/work at home mum for a while now and there are a few things I’ve learnt along the way.

Here are 5 tips for stay at home mums:

5 Tips For Stay At Home Mums

1. Join baby groups.

Do you have mama friends? Seriously, get some!

They will be your rock, they will never tire of hearing about the colour of your babies poop, they will understand exactly what you mean if you say you’re tired, and they will seriously not judge you if you have baby sick in your hair.

Baby groups are such a great excuse to get out of the house. There are only so many times you can go to the shop for milk, just so that you can have an adult conversation. 

Some groups can get a tad clicky, but it’s worth trying out a few to find the right one for you. Not only will baby groups help you to extend your circle of friends, but your child will learn their own social skills too. It’s also so nice to be able to rant to someone who understands about teething and sleepless nights.

2. Schedule some you time.

I spent the first three months of maternity leave thinking that because I was at home, I shouldn’t get time to myself.

But being a stay at home mum is very full on, and giving attention to your little ones full time, as well as managing a household, can be exhausting. 

It is so important to get some time out for yourself. Even if it’s a simple solo trip out to a shop, it can make the world of difference to your mind frame, and you’ll come back feeling so refreshed. 

3. Set ground rules with your partner.

Especially if they’re working full time. Maybe you’ve agreed to do all of the washing and the housework as well as raising your little ones. But sometimes managing the house can be a lot of work. It’s good to set rules with your partner early on about who does what, so neither of you feel like you’re doing more than the other or end up arguing about it in the long run.

4. Ask for help and advice if you need it.

Too many of us try to be super mums. I’m the worst for trying to do everything myself. But you don’t want to be worn out when you have an energetic baby to look after.

Sometimes it’s better to offload a little bit onto someone else, or to ask for help when we’re struggling. Whether it’s asking your parents to take your little one for an hour so you can do the food shop alone (taking a tantruming toddler around a supermarket is so not fun), or asking someone for their advice on how to stop your toddler from waking at night.

I’ve spent many days struggling to cope when all I needed to do was ask. The worst that someone could say is no!

5. Enjoy it.

The days may feel long but the years are short. It’s quite frightening when you realise a whole year has just flown by and you didn’t even notice. They reach each milestone so quickly and they grow so fast.

One morning you’re looking at your little baby and the next you’re looking at a walking, talking toddler who has such a personality, then in the blink of an eye they’re starting school. Cherish every moment. 

If you liked this post, you’ll love 5 Reasons To Join A Baby Group and 10 Minute Break For Busy Mums.

Are you a stay at home mum? What tips would you add to this list? Let us know in the comments below!

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26 Comments

  1. January 10, 2016 / 7:38 am

    Some lovely tips… time really does fly past too quickly. x

    • January 10, 2016 / 8:04 am

      Thank you so much. It really does fly by. It’s frightening. x

  2. January 10, 2016 / 8:42 pm

    These are some great tips and definitely something that I need to put into practice. I am a stay at home mum but miss the working so I am doing some volunteering and concentrating on my blogging to help me feel fulfilled. Thanks for posting this – I needed it!

    • January 14, 2016 / 9:28 pm

      Thank you so much Emma. I completely agree with the blogging helping you to feel fulfilled. It’s so lovely to have a creative outlet isn’t it! xx

  3. January 14, 2016 / 10:55 pm

    Great tips! I’m a stay at home mum and baby groups were the best thing ever, I met a lovely group of Mums back in 2013 at my local under 1’s group and we have been a closeknit bunch ever since. I can’t imagine getting through those first couple of years without them! xx

    • January 15, 2016 / 3:44 pm

      Thank you so much. Baby groups are great. I need to find some new ones now Evie is approaching two (our usual one stops for her then). It’s so good to get out of the house isn’t it. x

  4. Gemma @ A Gem's Life
    January 19, 2016 / 11:20 am

    Agree! It is so important to get out there and speak to other mums, as well as making time for yourself so you can chill. The years do go very fast, so I love your last tip… definitely important!

    Gemma xx

    • January 20, 2016 / 10:46 am

      It goes so fast doesn’t it! It’s frightening turning around one day and realising how much they’ve grown and realising that they’re no longer that little baby anymore. x

  5. January 19, 2016 / 5:25 pm

    Great tips o stayed at home for a year with my twins. I loved it but it was definitely no walk in the park. I found baby groups were a lifesaver. Especially the ones with good coffee and cake! I found having s routine helped but ecru so often I would mix it up and do something completely different too. S x

    • January 20, 2016 / 10:46 am

      Baby groups are so fab, especially in that first year. It’s nice to have a good support network around you of people who understand. x

  6. January 19, 2016 / 8:53 pm

    Great tips lovely! I really struggled with the adjustment to working mum to stay at home mum, and whilst I love it, it is hard! especially being in a new area! If only I’d read your tips a year ago 🙂 xx

    • January 20, 2016 / 10:47 am

      It really is a hard adjustment isn’t it? It can feel very lonely and isolating and groups can be so scary!! I’m glad you’ve adjusted now. It took me a long time too. x

  7. January 20, 2016 / 3:13 pm

    These are lovely tips and something I can totally relate to. I enjoyed my years as a stay at home mum with my little girl. Now she is in school but those days at home together were precious and fantastic. For some mothers however who are stay at home and single mums, they sometimes don’t have a partner to set grOund rules with so maybe they could make rules or get support from family or something. Thats what I did. I had one night to go to a counselling group and i loved it- having some time for me. Angela

    • January 24, 2016 / 8:01 am

      Thank you so much. Those days really are so precious. It’s so good that you could get support and go to a group where you had some time for you. It really does make a big difference. x

  8. January 20, 2016 / 8:27 pm

    Great tips. I work but would love to be at home with Mini M. My best friend is a stay at home mum, I’m going to show her your post xx

    • January 29, 2016 / 11:51 pm

      Thank you so much. I hope she enjoys it. x

  9. January 20, 2016 / 9:32 pm

    I would add make the weekends different too, this was a tip a health visitor gave to me and I think this really helps.

    • January 29, 2016 / 11:51 pm

      That’s a really, really good idea actually. I need to start implementing that. x

  10. Rachel (Lifeathomewithmrsb.com)
    January 20, 2016 / 9:46 pm

    I’ve not been a stay at home mum for the last few years but i loved it. I enjoyed every day (even the ones that made me want to pull my hair out!) Thankfully Mr B has always been domesticated so he’d do whatever needed doing when i was busy. Playgroup is a must! I loved the two groups i attended, that’s where i met Miss M’s childminder 🙂

    • January 29, 2016 / 11:52 pm

      I must say I do really love it. You’re so lucky Mr B is domesticated. It’s so amazing when you find a good playgroup! xx

  11. Aimee Foster
    January 20, 2016 / 10:35 pm

    These are brilliant tips and I wholeheartedly agree with all of them. I’ve been a stay at home mum for over 6 years now and have been running a business around looking after my kids for the past 3.5 years. Finding mum friends was my lifeline when I was a new mum. I was a single mum at the time and none of my friends had children. It was tough, but finding my mum friends (and my husband!) helped a lot. Having ‘you time’ is also very important as it’s easy to lose yourself when you are looking after little people all day. I wish I had read a post like this when i had my first baby but blogs didn’t really exist at that time! x

    • January 29, 2016 / 11:54 pm

      It’s so nice to hear someone who is in the same boat. I am trying to run a business and i’m doing it mostly alone. I’m glad this is so helpful and relatable to others. It’s nice to know you’re not alone xx

  12. February 27, 2016 / 10:53 am

    Great tips, thankfully I’m already practicing most! I’m just starting out on my stay at home adventure, 2 more months of maternity left! Think I know it’s going to be hard just happy I get to cherish watching my little man grow up

  13. March 5, 2016 / 5:53 pm

    Great tips,its too easy to take it all on yourself and never get a proper break!

  14. July 23, 2016 / 3:54 pm

    I am both a stay at home mum & work from home mum. Sometimes I wish I could just get out of the house & go to work, especially as the hubby prioritise his work over mine, but I wouldn’t swap it at all. I love being home with the kids, they need me as one is studying for his GCSE’s and the our youngest has Autism x #TheList

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