A NOT SO PERFECT WALK

A NOT SO PERFECT WALK

Oh the terrible twos! They are well and truly upon us.

I often wonder if some blogs give off the wrong impression of parenting. I know that sometimes mine does.

So many people approach me online, or leave comments saying how envious they are of our little life by the sea, and how perfectly well behaved our little one always seems to be.

Believe me when I say it’s not always the case. Most of our outings of late have been exhausting. I almost didn’t write this post, but I think that once in a while, it’s maybe a good thing to show another part of our life and to explain why I never post about it.

Not So Perfect Walk

Recently we went on a walk to one of my favourite spots, a beautiful little river in the village where I was born. It’s such a peaceful walk and we fully intended to go to clear our minds and cheer ourselves up…

That’s not quite what happened.

Not So Perfect Walk River

On our way to the river, Jamie and I picked up a takeaway coffee, not only to keep us warm but also to help wake us up after a sleepless night with a grumpy Evie.

Being so tired and grumpy ourselves, we completely forgot Evie’s obsession with coffee cups.

We usually remember to get an extra empty cup so that we can give her one play with, so as soon as we got out of the car she had a meltdown over the fact that we had boiling hot coffee and she couldn’t have our cups until the liquid had all gone. (The picture below is of our finally empty cups!)

Not So Perfect Walk Costa

Trying hard to hide our cups out of sight, we started our walk along the beautiful river bank hoping that she’d settle down when we were in the fresh air.

Meltdown number two came moments later when she really wanted to splash in a muddy puddle, only to find that the muddy puddle was two deep for her liking.

Not So Perfect Walk

After trying to show Evie that even deep puddles can be fun, because they make super squelchy noises, we finally had a couple of minutes where we thought that this walk would be lovely.

We played in the leaves, splashed in some puddles and then sat on a bench to enjoy the quiet, and to maybe get some nice family photos.

Meltdown number three wasn’t far behind and came when Mummy showed Evie a ladybird that had landed on her hand.

Evie was fascinated with the ladybird but completely broke down when not only the ladybird decided to fly off, but because the coffee cups blew down in a sudden gust of wind and she had to have her hat put back on because it was quite chilly.

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Finally, we managed to walk along with a content Evie, only after discovering some sticks and stones.

We were so grateful she found them because we actually had a nice end to our walk, and for about ten minutes just enjoyed helping Evie to count out the stones she’d found, and to collect some sticks for her to walk about with.

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To everyone who reads blogs, although sometimes it may appear that a bloggers life is perfect, I can promise you that’s not always the case.

I only tend to focus on the positives in my blog because that’s what I want to share. I love to look back on the good moments we had and all the great photos that we captured.

Just like with a photo album, I pick my favourite photos from the day to include in my posts. There are lots of blurry, out of focus ones that don’t make the cut, and sometimes some downright hilarious outtakes that I’d rather just keep for my family to giggle at.

But please know, my daughter has awful terrible twos like everyone else, gosh I even have terrible 26’s!

My house isn’t always tidy, our days aren’t always full of sunshine and my child isn’t always the clean faced, immaculate one you see in our pictures.

For every picture of Evie posing and smiling, there are triple the amount of pictures on my camera card of her tantruming and crying.

For every line about our wonderful day out to somewhere, there is also an untyped line of how we had an argument in the car because we got lost, or how we bickered because we couldn’t agree on where we were going or what we were going to do for lunch.

Not So Perfect Walk Leaves

I will always love making my blog a happy space, a place where I can look back on the good times, and I hope that my readers enjoy reading about our lovely days out and our precious family moments together.

Do you think that sometimes blogs give off a false impression of parenting? Do you prefer to read posts that focus on the positives or posts that tell it as it is?

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  1. December 9, 2015 / 7:47 am

    We all have days when our children aren’t quite on top form. How funny that Evie has an obsession with coffee cups!! I think there are quite a few blogs which focus on the downs of parenthood and it’s always reassuring to hear we are not alone in this but I like to hear all the positives too! As my blog is mainly travel-based most of my posts are relatively upbeat but we all need to be honest in our writing. Life isn’t completely perfect! #whatevertheweather

    • December 11, 2015 / 9:59 am

      We definitely do have those days. I much prefer to hear the positives. But it is nice to sometimes here that we’re all the same. I love your posts and always think they’re the perfect balance of upbeat and honest. xx

  2. December 9, 2015 / 8:37 am

    I think it’s definitely good to show the downsides too! #whatevertheweather

    • December 11, 2015 / 9:59 am

      It really is. Sometimes it can appear that a bloggers life is perfect. It’s nice to show that we’re the same as everyone else sometimes. x

  3. December 9, 2015 / 8:45 am

    Oh dear haha – I still love Evie though! 🙂 It’s fun to read about the ‘true story’ of each day actually, it gives a more realistic view for people like me who get way too broody when they read these blogs haha.
    Xx
    Anna

    • December 11, 2015 / 10:00 am

      haha yes there are a lot of down days and times with a little one. It’s still nice to blog just about the positives though. Although after the response from this post I’m going to include a lot more little bits of normality too. xx

  4. December 9, 2015 / 9:33 am

    I do love this post – especially the pictures! I agree I’d rather read and write about the positives, but it’s great to have the occasional reminder of when real life doesn’t live up to the image. #whatevertheweather

    • December 11, 2015 / 10:02 am

      Aww thank you! It is definitely nicer to read about the positives. But in future I’ll definitely include more posts like this too. x

  5. Kelly Robinson
    December 9, 2015 / 9:39 am

    This is brilliant to read it makes me feel I am not alone! we always go walking but we went through a face when my three year old refused to take a step without screaming so we stopped for a month or so. The tantrums can be awful! We are experiencing shopping tantrums at the moment. The worse is when people approach my son and feel sorry for him!! For him!! The child who is currently kicking me because I won’t give him a fireman Sam fire engine, because he already has that one for Christmas. I often give a cheeky smile when I see another child having a tantrum as I am thinking, thank god it’s not mine for once haha! Great post #whatevertheweather

    • December 11, 2015 / 4:14 pm

      You are definitely not alone!! We’re getting the shopping tantrums too. They’re so bad aren’t they? And you wonder where they get it from. It’s so embarrassing when other people are watching as well. I hope it’s just an age thing. xx

  6. December 9, 2015 / 9:54 am

    This sounds familiar. And my toddler is still only fifteen months! At least there were some good moments in your walk.

    Part of the reason I never detail tantrums is that my first thought on meltdown is not ‘must get a picture of this’! But we all go through those days. They are hard enough to live through, never mind write about…#whatevertheweather

    • December 11, 2015 / 4:15 pm

      Evie started around 15 months too. She’s 20 now. They seem to get worse the older she gets. We’ve tried lots of different methods to stop them or help to calm her down, but it doesn’t seem to be working. Eeek! x

  7. December 9, 2015 / 2:41 pm

    I have often thought that about my blog, it’s not often I add in the bad bits. I am like you wanting it to be mostly positive, good memories. Reality is, we all have bad times, grumpy children (and parents), but it is nice to read happy positive posts. The terrible twos can be tough, but you get through it. It was nice you managed to get out for some fresh air, even if it didn’t turn out as nice as you thought. x

    • December 11, 2015 / 4:20 pm

      It’s definitely nicer to read about the positives. I completely agree. The terrible twos are so frustrating. I can’t wait till Evie can communicate whats up rather than having little meltdowns. x

  8. December 9, 2015 / 7:58 pm

    I have to admit that I usually focus on the positive and that’s what I prefer to read. However I do regularly remind myself that every other blogger out there probably got baby/toddler poo under their nails today or had their shower interrupted or had just two hours of unbroken sleep. But who wants to read about that in every post? It’s refreshing to read it every once in a while though 🙂 #whatevertheweather

    • December 11, 2015 / 4:21 pm

      haha yes I can promise you we have all of the above. Sometimes I wonder why I bother getting into bed or the shower! It’s definitely better to read the positives, but I do like to hear that people are in the same boat sometimes too. x

  9. December 10, 2015 / 8:35 pm

    I love this post. I like to record the good memories, though once a month I write my girly a letter and say what I have found the hardest and what has made me cry (sometimes good, sometimes bad). For me, the blogging is about recording the moments I want to look back on, and seeing the positives in each day. Lovely (and funny!) pictures and thanks for hosting x

    • December 11, 2015 / 4:21 pm

      That’s a great idea writing a monthly letter. I think it gets it all out which is such a good thing. I love recording all of the positives too. Thank you for linking up. x

  10. December 10, 2015 / 9:00 pm

    I love this. One of the reasons I get bored with some blogs is because they build up this almost false view of their perfect lives and families. I like to know I’m not alone when I’m letting my toddler watch Netflix for couple of hours so I can get stuff done or feeding her fish fingers again! ?

    • December 11, 2015 / 4:22 pm

      Haha you’re definitely not alone!!! Our weakness is cbeebies and beans though! Our lives are definitely not perfect, but I love to look back on the good times more than the bad days. xx

  11. December 11, 2015 / 8:11 am

    I tend to blog the better parts of my day (who wants to read about how some days my son has meltdowns every few minutes?) But I do sometimes mention the challenges of being a family of 4 with a special needs child.
    It looks like you like in a lovely area, it’s great to get outside to help blow away the cobwebs.

    • December 11, 2015 / 4:25 pm

      It’s so nice to get outside in some fresh air. I love reading the positives too. I think it’s nice to remind people that we’re all in the same boat too on occasion, but it’s so much better getting to look back on all the good times you had. x

  12. December 11, 2015 / 9:15 am

    Oh the terrible twos! Although it carries on into terrible threes, fours, fives…my little girl still has meltdowns and she’s six. I think so much depends on their mood, whether they are tired, hungry etc. And that also applies to adults. I can be grumpy too & catch my daughter off guard when she’s in a good mood. I think it’s good to show ups & downs on a blog…people can identify with imperfections! #whatevertheweather

    • December 11, 2015 / 4:27 pm

      Haha I can definitely be grumpy as well! I agree that it’s definitely good to show the downsides on occasion too. I like reading posts that I can relate too. I love reading positive posts because it inspires me, but I love reading real posts because it makes me feel so much better than I’m not the only one. x

  13. December 11, 2015 / 9:50 am

    Awh we’ve just hit what I would assume is the terrible two’s. It’s an absolute disaster going anywhere with him. He screams, hits, everything! It’s a nightmare. He’s not even two yet, I suppose he’s trying to explore his independence…

    Completely identify with it all!

    • December 11, 2015 / 4:28 pm

      That’s the same with us. Evie’s started about 15 months old and have slowly gotten worse. We’ve tried loads of methods but it is just them trying to assert their independence, test the rules and to try and communicate. Hopefully it goes quickly!! x

  14. December 11, 2015 / 2:04 pm

    I’m like you – I like to use my blog as a way to look back fondly over nice times we’ve had, so I’m inclined to write about the negative bits. I have to admit though, the odd post about things not being perfect is really refreshing and keeps it feeling real, particularly as we are firmly in the tantrum stage too!

    • December 11, 2015 / 4:30 pm

      It’s so nice to look back on all of the positives isn’t it. But I completely agree, it’s good to include the odd post about the tough times too. It definitely keeps it real. It’s nice to hear that people are in the same situation as you too. x

      • December 11, 2015 / 4:56 pm

        Haha, your reply just alerted me to the fact I missed a crucial ‘not’ in there! ‘I’m not inclined to write about the negative biits’! I’m sure you got my gist 🙂

        Here’s to emerging from the tantrums soon! (My little boy hasn’t even hit two yet, so not holding out hope!)

        • December 12, 2015 / 5:39 pm

          hahah I get your gist. Ohhh i hope they go for you too soon as well! x

  15. December 11, 2015 / 2:45 pm

    Oh my goodness, I can relate to this so much! My daughter has just turned two and days like this are so common for us! We attempted a family meal out the other night, there were more toddler tantrums, asking her to sit at her seat, meltdowns and drinks/food on the floor than I care to count! Good memories though, haha! Thank you for sharing, it’s so easy to portray the lovely things… it’s nice to remember days like this exist too! xx

    • December 11, 2015 / 4:31 pm

      It really is so easy to portray the lovely things but I think sometimes it’s good to remind people that you have the normal tantrums and things too! 🙂 I’m sorry to hear about your dinner. I can so relate to that. Sometimes Evie so much as glances a high chair and turns into a rigid statue. x

  16. December 11, 2015 / 5:53 pm

    I largely focus on the positive, but I write posts like this one every so often for exactly the reasons you have. I want my blog to be a happy place, but also authentic, so there has to be some balance x #love2blog

    • December 12, 2015 / 5:41 pm

      There definitely has to be a good balance. I completely agree that that makes things more authentic. I love reading about your family adventures. xx

  17. December 11, 2015 / 7:10 pm

    Oh your girl has such a gorgeous little face! I quite like a mix of both – you don’t want to read a blog where it just seems like someone is constantly moaning. But equally it’s quite nice to occasionally it’s nice to have a bit of a reality check on the more ‘perfect life’ blogs and realise that they also have bad days. I love the photo of her with the coffee cup, it’s almost as big as her!! Xx

    • December 12, 2015 / 5:42 pm

      Awww thank you. I completely agree, a good mix makes a perfect blog. I tend to not read blogs anymore if they’re too perfect or too moany. She is completely obsessed with coffee cups, it’s so cute but also so annoying when we want to drink a nice warm cup. x

  18. December 11, 2015 / 11:45 pm

    Great post! Of course we’re going to concentrate on and share the positives, so people don’t always see this side to parenting – but I’m sure many others can relate to this post, including me! x

    • December 12, 2015 / 6:24 pm

      Thank you so much. It’s nice to share the positives. I much prefer looking back and seeing the positives of our year, but I think it’s sometimes nice to share the raw side sometimes too. x

  19. December 12, 2015 / 2:25 am

    I love walks with mud and leaves. It’s about the journey and looked fun. I miss these types of things. I love your daughters little red coat and the wellies. Angela

    • December 12, 2015 / 6:26 pm

      You can’t beat a good muddy walk. Her coat is so sweet isn’t it. Such a shame the walk was full of grumps. x

  20. December 12, 2015 / 8:13 am

    I thought I had previously commented on this sorry. I like these posts as it doe normalise parenting. But I saw a comment somewhere that blogs are like photo albums for us to look back on and everyone likes nice photos and nice stories!

    • December 12, 2015 / 6:27 pm

      That’s ok! It really does normalise parenting, but I must admit I do use my blog like a photo album and love posting the positives and the best photos. x

  21. Georgina
    December 12, 2015 / 12:22 pm

    Beautiful photos! I agree- I think I focus on writing about the positives on my blog because thats what I’d like to look back on and remember. I can totally sympathise with you though, the terrible twos/threes are hard and I think your post is brilliantly reminding us all that no matter what we post we are actually going through the same things at home! XXX

    • December 13, 2015 / 4:06 pm

      I’m glad someone agrees. It’s so nice to look back on the positives, like a little photo book of your lives. But I must admit, it’s good sometimes to remind people that you’re a normal family too. x

  22. December 12, 2015 / 2:36 pm

    I think it is always nice to see the happy times in someones life but I guess seeing the bad side sometimes can just help people realise they are not alone in something. So I guess us bloggers need to balance out all the good with a bit of the bad sometimes.

    Azaria

    • December 13, 2015 / 4:07 pm

      I think that’s what I’ll be doing in future. I love having this space as a little photo book of our lives, showing all the positive things. But sometimes it is nice to remind people you’re in the same boat with things like the terrible twos. x

  23. December 12, 2015 / 6:50 pm

    A great read. I think it’s important to talk about the bad stuff as well as the good. Melt downs happen and it’s amazing how something as small as a stick can make a child happy!

    • December 13, 2015 / 4:08 pm

      Thank you so much. Haha it really is amazing how sticks can make them so happy!! x

  24. December 13, 2015 / 12:34 pm

    It’s completely natural to blog about the positives, we blog to keep the memories and they are usually all the nice ones. I do the same too. I can see how that creates a picture perfect blog sometimes. I love her face when she’s not so sure about the puddle! 🙂

    • December 13, 2015 / 4:16 pm

      Haha she was so cross and upset about the puddle. I completely agree that it’s natural to post about the positives. It’s nice to look back on all the happy times for sure. x

  25. December 13, 2015 / 3:34 pm

    Aww… bless her little heart for lying down on the bench. MY nearly 20 months is also started doing this too. And also stumping her feet on the ground when she couldn’t have something she wanted. Bless. xxx

    • December 13, 2015 / 4:19 pm

      They’re so funny aren’t they. I guess it’s just their way of expressing frustration at not being able to communicate properly yet. It’s nice to know you’re not alone. x

  26. December 14, 2015 / 9:57 pm

    I think it is very easy to post about the nice things! You feel no body would want to hear the grumpy moany walk you went on, but they do! Other parents always want to know that there are other parents going through the same thing as they are!

    • December 15, 2015 / 5:40 pm

      It is so easy to post about the nice things. I think it’s good to have a balance on your blog isn’t it, some good and some bad. x

  27. Jenny
    December 14, 2015 / 11:50 pm

    Poor Evie, sometimes it’s so hard being a toddler! I know what you mean, we have plenty of photos of grumpy kids, but even more annoying now is that O doesn’t always want his photo taken, so I most of our photos are of A instead and then I feel guilty for not having so many of his big brother! At least you’re looking on the positive side and can see there were some parts of the walk that went well. I often find that when I’m grumpy too then that makes it doubly worse, because I can’t compromise as much or I’m just being stubborn, today is a prime example (I even tried reasoning with myself in my head as I know I was being impatient and grumpy!). Lovely photos though, Evie’s jacket is so sweet! 🙂 x

    • December 17, 2015 / 12:09 pm

      It really is hard being a toddler sometimes. Don’t worry, I get grumpy too sometimes and I always feel so awful afterwards. But you can’t help it! We’re only human after all. 🙂 x

  28. December 16, 2015 / 8:00 am

    Ha ha I can so relate to this!! Monkey had a melt down the other day because I had cut the cheese short Instead of long…..my house is never clean we seriously need to declutter and Monkey always has a grubby face! That aside you do manage to capture some great photos 🙂 xxx #Whatevertheweather

    • December 17, 2015 / 12:14 pm

      Haha they do meltdown over the silliest things! We’ve had so many similar. I always have to wipe Evie’s face about 100 times on a walk out. I do wonder how they get so dirty so quickly. x

  29. December 16, 2015 / 9:40 am

    Oh the terrible twos! It’s refreshing to see a ‘normal’ side to blogging too every once in a while x

    • December 17, 2015 / 12:14 pm

      The terrible twos really are terrible haha. Thank you for your lovely comment. x

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