A YEAR OF DATES

A YEAR OF DATES

How rare is it to get time alone with your partner when you have a baby? But time away is so beneficial. For your relationship as well as for your family. How about planning ‘A Year Of Dates’?

Instead of getting each other typical gifts for Valentines Day this year, Jamie promised me the gift of time in the form of pre-planned dates! For me, this is the greatest gift of all. I would take it above diamonds & shiny things any day.

Jamie is a chef & works on a rota. It was always hard to find time alone together pre-baby. Nowadays I am more likely to see the Queen than to spend some time solo with him. But booking off one day or evening a month for some much needed couple time seems reasonable.

That may sound like nothing to most of you, but when you’re caught up in the hectic-ness of family life & work, you do actually forget that you haven’t had any grown up time to talk about the things that you used to, & sometimes it’s nice to get the chance to walk down the road holding hands instead of pushing buggies or carrying babies.

It is so easy to make this gift! All you really need is a pen & paper, but you can get super creative with envelopes & your laptop. Your dates don’t even need to be expensive! There are so many great ideas, from feeding the ducks, to building a fort. I can think of 100’s of free dates so if you’re stuck drop me a message!

I decided to be a bit more creative when I came up with our dates. I thought it would be a great opportunity to re-ignite things by doing some dates where we have to ‘bond’. It’ll also be an amazing chance to make some great memories together doing things we’ve never done before & also getting to cross things off our bucket list. Here is what I came up with:

I printed this off, cut them up & put them into little envelopes so Jamie can open them each month & find out what activity we’re doing.

All we need to do now is crack out the babysitter box!

Do you make sure you go on date nights with your partner? What do you think of this idea? Is it something you’d do?

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  1. Emma Chanagasubbay
    May 13, 2015 / 7:19 am

    What a fantastic idea. My husband is a personal trainer, so as with you weekends and evenings are really busy.
    We've not been out for probably more than a year on our own!!
    We really need to get US back and this is a great way to do it xx

    • Chloe
      May 13, 2015 / 7:40 am

      It really is. It sounds crazy that you have to schedule time with each other, but it really does work. Last night we had our May date & it was so incredible. We appreciated it so much because it is so rare to have that couple time. It makes you so much closer. Our two rules on our dates are: no baby talk, no work talk. haha xx

  2. Ami Roberts
    May 13, 2015 / 9:08 am

    This is lovely. Me and Hubby try our hardest to do this each month as well but its frustrating as sometimes life just gets in the way. So happy to hear you make time for each other though 🙂 xx
    #wineandboobs

    • Chloe
      May 14, 2015 / 9:17 pm

      I must admit we didn't actually have time to do the first one (February). We were so busy. I know that might happen in the summer too, but we try so hard to stick to it. xx

  3. May 13, 2015 / 8:54 pm

    My husband is a musician, so I hear ya! I need a date night 🙁
    #wineandboobs
    Alice x

    • Chloe
      May 14, 2015 / 9:17 pm

      Book one in! It's crazy how long you can go without having a date. We went nearly 6 months before we realised we hadn't actually had time together. That's mad! x

  4. Cindie | www.momentsbigandsmall.com
    May 14, 2015 / 1:20 am

    I love this idea! I completely agree that it's easy to forget to make the time to have dates after the babies are born. Making it a gift for the year is such a great idea!!

    Looking forward to reading more!

    Cindie (visiting from #wineandboobs)

    • Chloe
      May 14, 2015 / 9:18 pm

      Thank you so much Cindie. I think it's so important too because it really keeps you close as a couple & re-ignites that bond, especially after you've had children. xx

  5. Lianne Thebrunettesays
    May 15, 2015 / 8:03 am

    This is such a good idea!! We struggle to spend any time together since baby arrived, plus I work in the evenings, albeit at home, Im sat at my desk every evening. We've not even been out on a date night since having Taylor 8 months ago. Im thinking this is a great idea I need to put in place!!!
    Im now off to read whats in your babysitter box!! 😉

    • Chloe
      May 16, 2015 / 6:17 am

      Thank you! honestly, it's really worth doing this. It makes us feel so much closer & really gets back that spark/bond that's sometimes strained post baby. it's crazy that lots of us can't even find the time to get one date a month (Even we struggle) but it is worth it. x

    • Chloe
      May 16, 2015 / 6:18 am

      It definitely does! So far they've all been amazingly fun too. I can't wait for archery this month! 😀 x

  6. Imogene Reynolds
    May 15, 2015 / 9:45 am

    Aw, I love this!
    My Husband is also a Chef – seriously rubbish hours for a family right?! This is a lovely list, I should apply this to our relationship too 🙂 sounds like you've got some really awesome dates lined up! X

    • Chloe
      May 16, 2015 / 6:20 am

      Thank you! i am so excited for archery this month! It's really rubbish isn't it! Being in a chef relationship is so testing & trying to get a good work/relationship/baby balance is scarily hard. But I think making sure we have this one day together really strengthens us for the rest of the month. xx

  7. Eat.Love.Live
    May 15, 2015 / 11:28 am

    This is such a nice idea. If you can get to the end of the year having done all of this you are going to have some amazing memories together. I can only imagine how difficult time would be with your partner being a chef. I would hope you would get some amazing meals whipped up for you though? K x #thelist

    • Chloe
      May 16, 2015 / 6:22 am

      Unfortunately he never has time to cook at home 🙁 Sometimes in winter if work goes a bit quiet I get a little home cooked treat then :-). So far the only date we haven't done is February, but we moved house this year so it was a bit hectic. i am beyond excited for archery this month. 😀 You should try implementing this for you! xx

  8. Leandra Bramham
    May 15, 2015 / 11:41 am

    I love getting new date night ideas.

    Great post. #thelist

    • Chloe
      May 16, 2015 / 6:22 am

      Thank you! It's so much fun to try new things. xx

  9. Nigel Higgins
    May 15, 2015 / 7:19 pm

    This is a brilliant idea thanks for linking to the Binkylinky

    • Chloe
      May 16, 2015 / 6:22 am

      Thank you for hosting! 😀 x

  10. Emily Higgins
    May 15, 2015 / 8:51 pm

    Such a sweet idea. I can't remember the last time, my husband and I had some time together! I think we need to make more of an effort! Thanks for linking up to the #BinkyLinky

    • Chloe
      May 16, 2015 / 6:23 am

      It's so important to get alone time! It really brings back that spark & makes your bond so much stronger. It's also nice to walk down the road holding hands. You can't really do that with a baby/buggy x

  11. May 16, 2015 / 12:23 pm

    Time is the BEST gift in the world – I'd settle for that. We really need to do this #TheList

    • Chloe
      May 16, 2015 / 5:35 pm

      It really is. So much better than anything bought. It is so worth doing. We've found that just one date a month has made us so much closer. It's funny how much your relationship changes after you've had a baby. You forget that you're supposed to spend time together too! 🙂 x

  12. newcastle familylife
    May 16, 2015 / 6:42 pm

    What a brilliant idea, i rarely get any time with my partner either as he works crazy shifts too xx #binkylinky

    • Chloe
      May 18, 2015 / 7:24 pm

      Thank you. It's crazy how much time passes before you realise you haven't had any couple time together as well. it's well worth doing this! x

  13. you baby me mummy
    May 17, 2015 / 9:20 pm

    Such a fab idea! So glad you are getting that special time together. Thanks so much for linking up to #TheList x

    • Chloe
      May 18, 2015 / 7:25 pm

      Thank you so much for hosting! x

  14. themamastory.com
    May 17, 2015 / 8:37 pm

    Such a lovely idea. We've had a couple of date nights recently now our youngest is 1 and I think it's so important!
    #TheList

    • Chloe
      May 18, 2015 / 7:24 pm

      It really is. You come back feeling so refreshed & so much closer. x

  15. Modern Dad Pages
    May 18, 2015 / 3:18 pm

    What a lovely post and a great idea! Sounds like you had some great times together 🙂 Thank you so much for linking on #wineandboobs

    • Chloe
      May 18, 2015 / 7:25 pm

      Thank you so much! And thank you for hosting! x

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