Last month I started a new blog series called ‘Her and Me‘. I realised that I could count how many pictures I have of Evie and myself on two hands. As a camera hogger, I am terrible for remembering to actually be in front of the camera sometimes. But, as a mother, I regret not being in more photos with my daughter.
This new series is motivating me to get in front of the camera more. I really want to be able to look back, many years from now, and see how much we’ve both grown and changed together. So…here is my 2nd instalment or Her & Me.
Her and Me – A Demanding Toddler
Regardless of our happy photos this month, most days I’m finding Evie really difficult at the moment. My kind, caring, good little girl who has the occasional little tantrum, has become rude, demanding and entitled. I really don’t know whats happened.
It’s so hard to not blame yourself when your child starts showing behaviours that aren’t very nice. I’ve started to question the way I am with Evie and if I’m parenting her the right way.
So far, not to toot my own horn, I’ve been thinking that I’m actually doing ok with this whole parenting malarky. I’ve winged it pretty well and Evie has turned into a very intelligent, social and emotionally caring little girl.
Lately though, and really just these last few weeks, she has changed. Suddenly she demands things…’You’re going to make me my breakfast now.‘ Or…’You can buy this for me now.‘ Or she tantrums. Full on meltdowns when she can’t get her own way or when I put forward a simple request like ‘Lets get you dressed now’.
She’s also being so rude at the moment. She’s rarely saying please or thank you unless prompted, she’s snapping, she’s moody and I keep forgetting that I have a three year old and not a teenager.
I’m feeling really frustrated with her at the moment and I’m trying so hard to keep a lid on it and not get cross. I don’t want to be a shouty mum and even though its happened a lot lately, I’ve been trying so hard to find other solutions to guiding her behaviour. I keep having to remind myself that its probably just an age thing. And maybe I just need to keep parenting her as I always have done.
But, even if it is just a phase, I’m not enjoying having a demanding toddler. My fingers are crossed that my old little girl will be back soon!
Do you have a testing toddler? Please let me know below any tips on dealing with this.