It’s become something of a tradition now, to share Evie’s birthday updates and I honestly can’t believe it’s been a year since I wrote ‘Happy 3rd Birthday Evie‘ and two whole years since I wrote all about her second birthday. Life Unexpected has been around since Evie was 11 months old. I am so glad that I started this blog, purely because I have so many gorgeous memories and updates to look back on.
Evie turned four on Saturday and it scares me how fast this year has gone and also how much Evie has changed. I’m going to be honest, I’ve been very emotional this week. The baby years are well and truly behind us and I don’t have a toddler anymore. I have a little girl. A little girl with a big personality.
I love doing these letters to Evie on milestone ages and I hope she loves having something like this to look back on. So, in true tradition, here is a letter to Evie on another beautiful birthday.
Wow, you are no longer a toddler. How are you not two or three anymore? These last few weeks I’ve really noticed a change in you. You’ve got so much taller, you’re losing your baby looks, you’re sounding more and more like a little girl and as much as I love watching you grow, it feels like time is going by faster than it should be.
Your baby days are officially over and even scarier for me, you start school in September! I can’t even begin to imagine you not being around me all the time. As much as I might feel sad and scared, it is so amazing getting to watch you grow, learn new things and discover more of yourself every single day.
I feel so grateful everyday that you came into my life (no matter how unexpectedly) and I love more than anything that I get to be your Mum.
We have had yet another beautiful year. We have made some fun and incredible memories. We’ve had lots of little holidays, you’ve completed many more firsts; first movies, first bikes, first dentist appointments, and I’ve spent as much time as I could just being with you.
With school looming, I’m trying so hard to cram in as many more memories as possible and I really hope that you’re not still too young to remember them all.
Hair…we finally have hair and who would have thought you’d have curls! It feels like we have been waiting a lifetime for your hair to grow and now it’s finally sprouting into little ringlets. They look so pretty, all though half the time it just looks so wild, like you’ve been dragging yourself through hedges. I’m so interested to see how it grows this year. Will it grow up and out, or down and long?
You’ve also got a lot taller. You’re in four year old clothes and have size 11 feet (almost). You just look so grown up compared to last year. Your body has completely lost its ‘babyness’ apart from your tummy. I’m also struggling to carry you, even though sometimes you still insist on being picked up. You’ve started to choose your own clothes now, which I both love to see and sometimes can’t help but laugh at what you pick up. You love anything sparkly, pink or Paw Patrol. You are also a huge fan of ‘dress up’ now, even though before Christmas you hated the idea of it. Most days you go around dressed as ‘Elsa’ or ‘Rapunzel’.
Oh food. I have a feeling this section will always remain the same. As I put last year “you are very up and down with food”. Sometimes you are very fussy. You find everything ‘spicy’. But you even say that about cucumbers, so we’re not sure what you mean. Especially as you actually ‘love’ and eat real spicy food like curries. You will not eat tomatoes, cucumbers or anything green, unless we convince you to try it.
The other day you finally realised after a whole year that peppers are yummy and so is kale, after I asked you over 100,000 times just to try it. You sighed, put it in your mouth and went ‘mmm I like this’. I wish you’d do that with everything you refuse.
Breakfast and lunch is a breeze, but dinners are so stressful. We’ve started to get you to help out completely. You help with food shopping, with dinner prep and with cooking. It is helping encourage you to eat more and try new tastes, but not as well as we hoped.
Looking back at last years update, your moods haven’t changed either. You are still so loving and kind. If someone is upset you are the first one asking if they are ok and giving them a cuddle. You also love cuddles yourself and often ask if we can just go and sit down for a snug. You’re very in touch with your emotions and always talk about your feelings. If you’re sad or upset you say so and if you’re angry you show it. But, you also talk about it after and explain why you feel the way you do. You’ve always been so grown up in this respect.
My only concern is that you are very moody a lot of the time. You’re quick to see the negatives and the bad things, yet you are only four! We’re trying so actively to turn this around. Every time you are grumpy (which is often) we try and encourage you to say at least five positives from the day. It doesn’t help amazingly, but I hope it’s getting you into the habit of looking on the bright side.
Despite being moody (most of the time), you are also hilarious. You always make everyone laugh and love being so silly.
Likes – Frozen (you’re obsessed), PAW Patrol (again obsessed), Blaze, Disney Princesses, singing, reading books, the beach, being outdoors, going for walks, smoothies, your dolls, doing puzzles, playing board games.
You really dislike having your hair washed (although we went through a phase of it being ok). You also have very sensitive toes and hate, as you call it, rubbish being in your toes. You’re constantly taking your socks off and really don’t like having things on your feet. You also don’t like going out, when we initially leave the house and you throw tantrums every time we say we need to go somewhere. Even though when we get to where we are going, you always love it!
You’ve pretty much hit all of your baby and toddler milestones. You were potty trained last year, but you’re also dry in the night now and have been for a while. You are still speaking fluently too. All we ever have to do is correct a few sentences for example; ‘I ated my dinner’ to ‘I ate my dinner’ and ‘I sleeped’ to ‘I slept’.
You know your alphabet, you can count to 100, you know lots of shapes and you’ve started to recognise and read words. We constantly hear you walking around places trying to spell out shop names or words that you find in your books.
You can almost get dressed yourself, but we do sometimes struggle with tights and tops still. Other than that you are so independent. You want to be involved in everything; from making your food, to cleaning, tidying and doing our weekly shops.
You still memorise books, just like last year. By the second or third read of a book, you know it by heart and will happily sit there reading them to yourself by memory. I wonder if next year you’ll be able to read all of the actual words.
Next comes all the school milestone; learning to read and write! I’m so interested to read next years update and to see where you are at then.
You have been sleeping in your own bed for over a year and a half now. Up until this last couple of weeks. Even if you’ve been poorly or you’ve had a bad dream you still wanted to stay in your own bed. However lately you have been waking up every night and begging to sleep in my bed, or your Dads, when you are at his house.
We’re really not sure what has changed but you always wake up so upset and you’re really hard to soothe. You’ve also started getting up a lot earlier at my house. You still go to bed at 7pm but you’ve started rising at 5.30am/6. We’re not sure where this extra hour has gone and why you’re up in the night too. I hope that we can get you back on track soon as I have a feeling lack of sleep is why you get so grumpy.
You love making friends. You’re still very sociable, like you always have been. You talk to all the shop clerks and waiters and waitresses wherever we go. If we’re in a queue you strike up conversations with random people and if we go somewhere where there are other kids, you always try and play them. We live in a small, local town and you seem to know EVERYONE! You love waving and shouting hi to people and so many people think you’re this really cool little girl. It’s so cute!
We were hoping the confidence you’ve had all your life wouldn’t wane. It hasn’t, but nowadays you do get a bit shy on the odd occasion and it does take a while for you to come out of your shell. We have had quite a few play dates in the last year though and I love seeing you interact with your cousins and your friends. You are very bossy though, everyone you play with seems to follow you around like sheep. But, you also know when to let someone have a turn and you’re very loving towards everyone.
This year has been all about trying to find the balance and spend more time with you before you go to school. Last year I was working three jobs, two at home and one out. My time with you felt so limited. This year I’ve started working purely from home and I love how much more time I have with you. I can’t wait for summer. It’s the first year I won’t be doing shift work so I get to spend a lot of time just with you.
As much as I’m not ready for you to go to school, you are so ready for it. You love learning, you love going to pre-school and I know you’re going to thrive and do so well.
I wish you would stop growing so quickly, but I can’t wait to see how much you develop and shine this next year. I’m really interested to see what I’ll write here on my next update. Everyone tells me that school age kids seem to change so much.
Until school though, I am going to wrap you up and try to make the most of those last little glimpses of toddler life. I’m going to miss it all, even the tantrums.
I honestly didn’t think it was possible to love you even more than I already do. But everyday my love for you grows and grows. I am so grateful you popped into my life and everyday I feel so lucky to be your Mum.
Thank you for being the most incredible little girl, for having such a big heart and for always being so annoyingly you.